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August 21, 2020

A match made in Heaven!

Do you sometimes find yourself getting stuck in certain emotions?

Is shifting from one emotion to another challenging for you?

Do you avoid certain emotions for fear of not being able to handle it?

Do you find it difficult not to take on the emotions of others?

Why we want to feel all our emotions

Feelings come and go, rise and fall, just like waves in the ocean. No feeling lasts forever; anger, sadness and joy, are all parts of the human experience. In our culture however, many of us have grown up learning to avoid unpleasant emotions at all costs. Our primary impulse when we are experiencing unpleasant emotions is often to try to escape from those feelings through alcohol, food, distractions, or a variety of other self-harming behaviors.

Negative emotions that are not processed, but stuffed, are held in the body and will eventually result in physical or emotional pain. The truth is that we cannot pick and choose which emotions we want to feel. By numbing or avoiding feelings like sadness or anger, we are also preventing ourselves from fully experiencing true joy and happiness. Trying to fight our feelings only leads to more suffering. It’s like putting a Band-Aid on a gaping wound; we might feel better temporarily, but we do not “fix” the underlying problem. Eventually the buried emotions will fester and result in even more suffering. 

Our emotions carry important messages. They can be a signal that our needs are not being met or that we need to take a certain action. By processing our feelings, we gain access to our own inner wisdom and innate creativity. We already have all the answers we need inside of us—and our emotions can help guide us to those answers. 

Sometimes the emotions we experience our not our own. Sensitive, empathetic people often take on other people’s emotions. Our own emotions may be crowded by the emotions of others that we’ve absorbed unconsciously, which means we also need to learn how to clear the emotions of others from our field. 

There are many reasons why it is important for us to learn to feel and process our emotions. Our way of coping with our emotions effects our quality of life and our wellbeing immensely. Experiencing our emotions and being vulnerable with the people that we trust is a sign of true strength, not a weakness. Ultimately, the way to heal and move through painful experiences is to let ourselves feel. We can do this by journaling, creative outlets, talking to a friend, or seeking help from professionals—there are many healthy ways to process our emotions.

Essential Oils; a powerful tool for emotional wellbeing

One very powerful tool to shift and help release emotional patterns is the use of essential oils. A wide variety of essential oils help stimulate our emotions by either boosting our mood, invigorating our spirits, calming, relaxing or soothing us emotionally in a natural way.

Using aromatherapy to influence emotions is not a new trend but have been used by our ancestors for thousands of years. Modern day research, however, have given us proof of the success of essential oils for managing our moods and processing emotions.

Have you ever noticed how smells, like a certain flower or someone’s cooking, can bring up a memory from childhood or remind you of a person you haven’t seen in a long time? The reason is that smell accesses the limbic system in our brain which is where emotions and memories are stored. Studies have shown that the amygdala gland in the limbic brain does not respond to any other sense other than smell. In other words; aromatherapy is highly effective in the release of emotional trauma stored in the body!

I used to think that “raising your frequency” was just a saying, but it is actually a thing. Everything is energy vibrating at a certain frequency, including our bodies, thought patterns and emotions. Everything we put into our bodies and surround ourselves with also vibrate at different frequencies and can either raise or lower our frequency. Emotions are stored in our body’s organs, glands and systems. Just like different emotions, each organ has a vibrational frequency, and so our emotions will settle in the area of our body with a corresponding frequency. Illness occurs when the frequency drops below a certain vibrational point. Therapeutic grade essential oils vibrate at an extremely high frequencies and are amazing for raising the frequency in our bodies. 

Not only is it true that essential oils work to help us process, release and shift our emotions, they are also highly effective and proven to generate a quick response.  When we use a high quality, therapeutic grade oil we only need a very small amount to achieve the desired effect. It’s a safe and gentle tool that is simple to incorporate into your daily routine.

Why Essential Oils and the Enneagram is a perfect match

When our emotions are intense we can’t help but notice them. We know when we feel really sad, angry or scared.  But all of us also have automatic and habitual emotional patterns, which we might not be aware of. Since these patterns were developed when we were very young they become second nature and part of our personality structure. The Enneagram helps us become aware of these subconscious emotional habits so that we can shift into more expansive states. 

Of course, all Enneagram types can feel all emotions, however; each type has a unique way of experiencing emotions and their own pattern of dealing with them. Some love to go deep and can get stuck in melancholy, some prefer to “always look on the bright side” and avoid painful feelings and others find emotions too messy and have a habit of disconnecting from their emotions completely. Depending on our type we all have habits of either exaggerating or stuffing certain emotions. 

Even when we know our dominant Enneagram type and we are intellectually aware of our emotional patterns, it can be challenging to access and release emotions. We might for example have blocked our anger for so long and stuffed it so deep into our subconscious that we don’t know what it feels like anymore. Or we might be so used to always caring about other’s emotions that we don’t know how to nurture our own. This is when the use of essential oils is a beautiful tool to gently access and release emotions in a safe and natural way.

Since it can be confusing to know which emotions we need to process let alone which oils to choose, we have created nine different blends, one for each Enneagram type, to support you on your wellness journey. The oils in each blend have been carefully selected with the intention to generate the most powerful blend for each type. The oils are all 100% pure and organic which makes our blends highly potent. Here are a few suggestions on how to use our blends;

1.Diffuser; place a few drops in an essential oil diffuser and diffuse while meditating or journaling.

2. Pour a few drops into a spray bottle filled with water and spritz over your clothes to enjoy the aroma throughout your day.

3. If you need to wear a facemask use the spray bottle with water and essential oil to spray the inside of your mask and enjoy the scent of the oil. 

4. Place a couple of drops in the palm of your hand, rub your hands together then cup them over your nose and breath in the benefits of the oil. 

5. Spray your pillow and bedding before going to sleep. 

6. Spritz your meditation pillow or the towel for your yoga mat.

7. Dilute the oil with a carrier for massage.

8. Rub your feet in the morning or before bed.

9. Apply to temples, shoulders or neck.

10. Add a few drops to a warm bath.

Everything you will ever need is already inside of you; you just need to learn how to access it. Processing your emotions and translating what they are trying to tell you provides a direct conduit to your own higher wisdom. It may take time and sustained attention to clear out what you were in the habit of stuffing down, but the more you lean into whatever is asking to be seen, the more your life will open and expand. 

You have unique gifts to share with the world, and you were meant to live your life wholeheartedly! We invite you to bravely embark on your journey of self-awareness and personal growth, so you can create a life of fulfillment!

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